Desperation, Aspiration & Disappointment

Past few days ...I have been trying to self coach myself on career thinking. It is a tough task to do once own brain surgery but contemplation do help in self awareness.

I wanted to understand what drives my career planning. As one of the biggest illusion in career planning is to be very Objective, Logical and radical about it. Buy when rubber meets the road.......it gets confusing . Diving you nuts with fight between left and right brain.

I wanted to breakdown this logical v/s emotional fight into manageable parts for thinking through.

Point of Aspiration: We will have our career goal at the point of our aspiration. Classical "What I want to become..." .Predominantly driven by once life path, past experience, Future potential......with varied contribution from skill composition.

Point of disappointment: While I may have my aspiration, dreams, Plans about my career but not getting something when ever such opportunity exist will disappoint me. Linguistically speaking......it is other side of aspiration...........though I may not be consciously aspire for it but not getting will bring negative outcome.

Point of Desperation: This is beyond logic. this " I don't care...I just need this ..."  aspect of the career. Very short term driven . May even make you take wrong career decision.

I believe it is very important for oneself to draw clear charter of Values & Life goals to draw your career plan. along with that to clarify what is you careers point of Aspiration, Desperation & Disappointment at time continuum of short, Medium and long term.

red rose and god in idol....

When we say the color of rose is red………

…in reality……
…that rose is everything but red.

That rose is “seen” as red……...
........because its molecular formulation allows it to absorb all color but color red.

But still rose is represented with color red……

Because…….it is the wave length and request of red which is reflected and understood by our brain through our eyes.

When we say I am seeing god in the temple……..it is everything but god….

That idol is "seen” as god…......
....…because its spiritual formulation allows it to absorb all but being god….

But still the idol is represented as god…

But…….has our mind is conditioned to absorb that wave length and frequency to identify god inside us rather in the idol…

Work Life balance....

An illusive search continues to haunt ..... both as fear of loosing it and being every one aspiration to achieve it. For the first time I saw Work Life balance at No.1 spot in employees value proposition for Indian employees. though it is common to appear as No.1 EVP factor in Australia and New Zealand.

I was not thinking about..... if or not there is a reality in real world for a concept of work life balance or is it just illusion created from not getting needed emotional validation at work ....which we expect just because we spend 10hrs a day in office.

Last week when I met my doctor and he enquired about my 2 phones.....one smart phone was my personal and great BlackBerry was my office phone. He was curious why I need 2. I said one is for work and other is for personal life. He was quick to say.....your work should be life. very opt for a well know heart specialist to say so......(sigh...)

I wanted to look into this from the point of time ...... being bit more quantitative

During the search I found some interesting research done by Christian Kroll , Sebastian Pokutta ( :Just a perfect day? Developing a happiness optimised day schedule:Journal of Economic Psychology Volume 34 2013 210 - 217.)


They put some serious research on what is been considered as perfect day by person. I believe this is what every one look for the day they can achieve perfect day and say...."I have work life balance now".

The research points out in a "perfect day" person would only want to work for 36 minutes...!!!

Illusive isn't it....

than cant we have that perfect day or that work life balance????

I took a dig at average time I believed most who know will spend in a working at work or otherwise. I believe we spend 54% to 69% of our time outside our office or work as we can call it. More importantly we don't spend more than 25% a year in office.
 

.....but......it doesn't feel that way............it feels like we spend 80% of time in office.

Why?

is it because we don't find those components which make an ideal day.....in office......like relationship......like meditation time....socialising....and try to substitute with something similar.......but don't get what we expected.

Instead can we......

1. Start using that 69% which we spend outside office effectively by spending quality time with family and more importantly with oneself.

2. Using the commuting time effectively to listen to music, Audio book or photo on the way or reading book ......anything which possible at that time.

3. Stop expecting emotional validation at office and stop expecting respect for our office achievement at home. Instead put effort to get it other way.

Do you know how much time it is ....if it is 69% or even 54%.......

 There is 31536000 seconds in a year.......69% mean....21759840 seconds.......can we use it effectively for our family and for our self.