Goal, wine & soul

Aim to create 2016 goals in such a way....it makes your soul wine by end of 2016....

Inspire the leader?

Ganesha festival is big at my house. It takes almost a 3 months of perpetration. 2 days of setup time. In the end, on the day of festival to get up at early morning 4am to make final preparation.
My mother wake me up at 3.30 to get ready. By that time she would have completed half of the festival cooking. I ask the question.."who woke you up". Her response...."oh....I never slept".
You cant wake up the one who doesn't sleep. You cant inspire the one who is always inspired.

Its for leader to Inspire . But who will inspire the leader.

Leader doesn't need to be inspired .... he is always inspired by his mission.

Desperation, Aspiration & Disappointment

Past few days ...I have been trying to self coach myself on career thinking. It is a tough task to do once own brain surgery but contemplation do help in self awareness.

I wanted to understand what drives my career planning. As one of the biggest illusion in career planning is to be very Objective, Logical and radical about it. Buy when rubber meets the road.......it gets confusing . Diving you nuts with fight between left and right brain.

I wanted to breakdown this logical v/s emotional fight into manageable parts for thinking through.

Point of Aspiration: We will have our career goal at the point of our aspiration. Classical "What I want to become..." .Predominantly driven by once life path, past experience, Future potential......with varied contribution from skill composition.

Point of disappointment: While I may have my aspiration, dreams, Plans about my career but not getting something when ever such opportunity exist will disappoint me. Linguistically speaking......it is other side of aspiration...........though I may not be consciously aspire for it but not getting will bring negative outcome.

Point of Desperation: This is beyond logic. this " I don't care...I just need this ..."  aspect of the career. Very short term driven . May even make you take wrong career decision.

I believe it is very important for oneself to draw clear charter of Values & Life goals to draw your career plan. along with that to clarify what is you careers point of Aspiration, Desperation & Disappointment at time continuum of short, Medium and long term.

red rose and god in idol....

When we say the color of rose is red………

…in reality……
…that rose is everything but red.

That rose is “seen” as red……...
........because its molecular formulation allows it to absorb all color but color red.

But still rose is represented with color red……

Because…….it is the wave length and request of red which is reflected and understood by our brain through our eyes.

When we say I am seeing god in the temple……..it is everything but god….

That idol is "seen” as god…......
....…because its spiritual formulation allows it to absorb all but being god….

But still the idol is represented as god…

But…….has our mind is conditioned to absorb that wave length and frequency to identify god inside us rather in the idol…

Work Life balance....

An illusive search continues to haunt ..... both as fear of loosing it and being every one aspiration to achieve it. For the first time I saw Work Life balance at No.1 spot in employees value proposition for Indian employees. though it is common to appear as No.1 EVP factor in Australia and New Zealand.

I was not thinking about..... if or not there is a reality in real world for a concept of work life balance or is it just illusion created from not getting needed emotional validation at work ....which we expect just because we spend 10hrs a day in office.

Last week when I met my doctor and he enquired about my 2 phones.....one smart phone was my personal and great BlackBerry was my office phone. He was curious why I need 2. I said one is for work and other is for personal life. He was quick to say.....your work should be life. very opt for a well know heart specialist to say so......(sigh...)

I wanted to look into this from the point of time ...... being bit more quantitative

During the search I found some interesting research done by Christian Kroll , Sebastian Pokutta ( :Just a perfect day? Developing a happiness optimised day schedule:Journal of Economic Psychology Volume 34 2013 210 - 217.)


They put some serious research on what is been considered as perfect day by person. I believe this is what every one look for the day they can achieve perfect day and say...."I have work life balance now".

The research points out in a "perfect day" person would only want to work for 36 minutes...!!!

Illusive isn't it....

than cant we have that perfect day or that work life balance????

I took a dig at average time I believed most who know will spend in a working at work or otherwise. I believe we spend 54% to 69% of our time outside our office or work as we can call it. More importantly we don't spend more than 25% a year in office.
 

.....but......it doesn't feel that way............it feels like we spend 80% of time in office.

Why?

is it because we don't find those components which make an ideal day.....in office......like relationship......like meditation time....socialising....and try to substitute with something similar.......but don't get what we expected.

Instead can we......

1. Start using that 69% which we spend outside office effectively by spending quality time with family and more importantly with oneself.

2. Using the commuting time effectively to listen to music, Audio book or photo on the way or reading book ......anything which possible at that time.

3. Stop expecting emotional validation at office and stop expecting respect for our office achievement at home. Instead put effort to get it other way.

Do you know how much time it is ....if it is 69% or even 54%.......

 There is 31536000 seconds in a year.......69% mean....21759840 seconds.......can we use it effectively for our family and for our self.

Family-Behavior & actions-Yagnavalka

I Believe family get constituted with clear combination of Love & Respect and Care & Earning. Each one in the family has onus to exhibit behavior of love and respect to each other. As well take ownership of acting as either and care taker and earner.

Though there can be multiple combinations of  being care taker and earner for the family. Which driven predominantly by cultural influence towards gender and age.

Love and respect to each other in family is the factor which sustains the happiness or help families to come out of hard time. Its balance or excess of both is very important while excess of both can be a bliss....:-)

It is important to understand one more aspect as well at the core..... once Rishi Yagnavalka told his wife Maitreyi  "Ah, you are very dear to me, and dear is what you say! Come, sit down. I will explain to you. But while I am explaining, you must try to think carefully of what I say." Then he said: "Now hear what is true.
It is not for love of the husband that a husband is dear, but for love of the Atman a husband is dear.
Truly, it is not for love of the wife that a wife is dear, but for the love of the Atman a wife is dear . . .
Truly, it is not for the love of wealth that wealth is dear, but for the love of the Atman wealth is dear."

Multi tasking v/s multi focusing

I did search on Google for "multi task and multi focus" and got About 10,600,000 results (0.23 seconds) .........

We have 15 billion brain cells connected with circuit structure equals to thousands of cities. My ear can hear 1600 different frequencies, ranging from 20 to 20000 cycles per second. My eyes can detect a single photon of light and the 80000 fibers in each of my optic nerves transmit info from 132 million rods & cones to my brain. more than 300 million air sacs in my lungs provide oxygen to the 100 trillion cells throughout body. my 206 bones and 656 muscles form much diverse but still coordinated machine ever made..............AND HOW CAN EVER IMAGINE AND ACCEPT THE FACT I CAN NOT DO MORE THAN 1 TASK..................RIDICULOUS.

D.......something is wrong with this understanding.......

I do understand this is conclusion based on lot research by lot of organisation and lot of great scholars...............but still......

.......Something is missing.......

Let me jump one more thing which i believe key factor ..............or reason ...........why i believe malti tasking is very viable.............CATEGORISATION.

How you categorise your task/goals/people/place/experiences/situations/emotions/objects/results/failure/etc/etc into a common bucket............. how you categorise these.........and very important how you un-categorise the same..............and than re-categorise the same.

In a very simple situation........... you are on a long drive to a vacation destination........

1. Your driving on high way.

2. You are engaged in conversation with your wife.

3. Your eye is on the rear view mirror for the vehicle coming behind.

4. Your eye is on left mirror for the vehicles over taking.

5. Your eye is on the right mirror for probable surprises.

6. Your keeping eye through rear view mirror on activities of your children in back seat.

7. Your also keeping watch for next coffee shop.

8. Thinking about the hotel you will be chking in.

9. Thinking of the plan for the day once you reach the destination.

10. listening to your wife.

11. listening to the music in the car.

12. listening horn sound out side.

13. sensing something wrong with A/c leading to low temperature.

14. etc

15. etc

You are doing all this to ensure you " have great time with family". Your NOT DOING "driving"........you are DOING "have great time with family".

I am sure lot of above would have been disturbance for the driver if you have hired a driver . His assumed expectation is to DO the "driving".

What is the point!?

difference is categorisation.............in first instance person is focused on " have great time with family" all other tasks including driving form part of this vision or goal. While in later case............driving by itself is the focus.

I believe it works in both office and other personal environment as well.

If the team is aligned to a vision, a goal or a common object than it will impossible for them to feel .............. handling a meeting, a customer call, priority of operation , escalation from management..........as multi task. rather is will be for a purpose of achieving common goal.

It is very important to create common goal in life................this is key to give work-life balance......

You will no longer see your personal life and office life as mutually exclusive as you see both stream on inter connected and inter related to achieve that common goal.

If you think about it........... every task is a muti task if you break it into sub tasks. It is once bias and language...............which make certain task sound like single task.

What do you think?

Harish B K (हरीश, 海瑞士 , ハリッシュ)

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