Child abuse from food by parents

I definatly agree with thsi guy.....if you are not cooking at home and leading your kid to junk food. Than it is nothing but child abuse.........worst......as a parent you are abusing your own child. Dont do it...teach your child about food and allow them to chose their food like we did.

Deep inside my heart

Deep inside my heart ....was a secret which stayed with me for years and never been revealed. Stayed fully unaware for me but still being part of me. Life has so many secrets yet to be revealed either inside me &/or outside me. It does revel appropriately at appropriate time.

Tuesday 10th February 2010, early morning 4.00AM I got off the bed feeling heavy pain in my chest with wild heart beating. It grew & creating pain & panic. Even after 1 hour it didn’t go away. I was rushed to cardio hospital immediately in my neighbor car (somehow didn’t go for ambulance....:-)).The pain continued in hospital till 6.30AM and with medicine it was subdued.

After test and consultation it revealed.....I have a heart wall (wall which separates my left part of the heart from right side of the heart) which is bit thick & creating this wild heart beating. It seems I had this from childhood but it has revealed itself only now.

Those 2.3 hours of pain has been an amazing experience. If I take out pain and panic which were incidental to the experience .It was a true introspection moment. Especially last 1.3 hours of the episode. Like concept of ' Last Lecture' this was an hour of 'Last thinking time'. The question which popped out of my mind was ……….' have I made enough provision for my family in case of eventuality?'....' Have I lived my dreams and done all that I can and I wanted of doing'. Answers which I got were very positive. I believe those answers because it came at that hour of my life where I was driving towards what I perceived to be either end of the road or just 90 degree turns which doesn’t appear until you reach the end. But during that 2.3 hrs. I was moving so fast either I cash at the dead end or take a speedy right turn. With god’s grace and prayer of my well-wishers I took speedy and safe right turn.

After echo test I was admitted to Intensive care unit for 24 hours observation. As it was a stepped down ICU, the ‘ flow’ of patients was pretty high…..J . In the beginning I had 48 year old lady in coma in my next bed. Now and then I was getting glimpse of her condition. She died that day.

On my other side was the closed window. Outside the window was resting place for pigeon. I observed 2 pigeons which kept landing on the parapet wall of the window pretty often. They used to play and romance. The romance part was very interesting. They used to open their wing fully and kiss each other with beak……Very romantic and picturesque.

I dint wanted to make the news of health known to my friends and relatives. As it creates unnecessary attention, which most of you know, I am not comfortable with. That day was working day and I had a visitor from Singapore. He was made known about my reason for not been able to meet him. His next stop of meeting was at my earlier company where I worked…………J. Everyone who need to know and I don’t want it to be known has been made aware of. My friends started calling in and not to mention my office.

Next day morning they allowed visitors in. My wife was the first one to come in. She was wearing my favorite sari and looking fresh. She told me, she was not in positive mind. But she knew I will not take this negatively………so she made it a point to take it positively and support me. I believe I was half cured at that movement.

As I introspected more on this during the day…………I was feeling more positive and energized. It was a clear combination of pure fear and contentment. I wanted to talk to my coach. I requested for his time. The discussion did help me to clarify the clutter. It was a combination of pure fear and contentment……both pushing me at that moment towards future. I felt lighter with clear mind.

I must mention this. My wife stayed with me all along. After I being shifted to private ward from ICU…………myself and my wife spent those Friday, Saturday & Sunday together. It was like renewal of our love. It’s been long time we spent time like that……with kids and work……..we didn’t had much opportunity to spend time together for long time. It was very very very romantic. 2 days of heart to heart discussion and just having time for just ourselves was great.
I had my friend visit me on Sunday directly from church and he offered his prayers at my ward also. It was very moving. I had my friends visiting me to and supporting me was supportive.
I got my Angiogram done on Monday early morning. It was clean chit. There was no Blockage. Doctor confirmed to me………….there is nothing to worry as it genetical in nature and it has got activated at an age ( yep..I am getting old!!!). So life will go on as usual and some medications are added.

Overall………..this was a WOW experience. Amazing and revealing.

I must thank all the well-wishers for their prayers.

While posting this on my blog………I saw this quote from Bhagavat Gita “There is nothing lost or wasted in this life.”

the most scariest thing....How to stop this....?

This can happen anywhere........i felt..the most scariest thing is...it is happening every moment....
When I see people jumping the traffic....when a educated person puts garbage on roadside....when some one uses roadside shade place to urinate .......or road rage ..........or when we see something wrong and let it go....etc etc etc etc etc........we are greasing the slipper sloop to evil.

Those civilians are taking first small step mindlessly towards evilness.in big city like Bangalore in India....the population gives coverage of anonymity. How to stop this?

I am planning a blog. where people can send email with photo of any civilian disobedience they saw in day to day. These days everyone has mobile camera ...they will take the photo and send it to the blog directly. posts will get screened only to ensure no nudity of obvious mischiefs are caught and published automatically. This is an idea let's see how it grows and works out.

If the current job content frustrates you even though you are convinced about the company

If the current job content frustrates ( especialy lower level activities during the market condition) you even though you are convinced about the company. Than I found the below chunking down of frustration area will be helpfull.

The process is simple.

1. Think about your active part of teh day in 10 units.

2. Imagine your "Phisical activity level" .....and where you spend these 10 units. Mark this on a on a white papare .

3. Imagine your "Intellectual activity level"......and where you spend this 10 units . Mark it on a same paper.

4. Compare how level of your units spent under both level towards same activities.

5. If you find large space in either of the scale that refernce to your frustration level.

6. Than ask how YOU could have utilised thsi space without blamming it on your company.

7. Think how instead you used thsi space in last 6 months or 1 year.

8. List out actions to start utilising this space effectivly going forward.

Crux is to ask how YOU can take control of teh space.

Project MSV

I was at Malleswaram Shishuvihara on 16th Jan. Met Mythliy and other teachers. We discussed for alomost 90 minutes.

Hold on..........let me give you back ground..... If you had read my last month newsletter than this intro wasn't required. I have taken one goal fro 2010 to do a community development project. I thought why not do it with MSV. So I spoke to Mythily madam and took all the requirements of MSV.

Their Primary issue is - Low admissionsCurrently they have 40 in Nursery and 150 in Others. They want to reach 100 nursery and 400 in others.

They believe doing following things will make it happen;

1. Van : This will help them in creating transporation to children which in turn will increase people to go for MSV.

2. Staffing:
a. Need Part time librarian come for full day for weekly 2 days.
b. Need PT master on part time basis for 3 hrs every day. Some one who can coach on specific games like Cricket, Kabbaddi , Coco etc.
c. Teachers for cultural activities ( dancing, Painting, Singing etc) on part time basis weekly one day for 2 hrs. These classes can happen post school hours.

3. Making the school known to people: They still want to continue to make school available for low income class group. But not many people aware of the school and its activities. Basically need appropriate advertisement.

4. Mid day meal for children

5. Building space of 1 Acer

Need your thoughts...inputs....... feedback....effort....involvement.....

Big dream..........good intentions.......let us see how far we can go.

I have started coaching.

Post my Master NLP practitioner training. I have offered myself to performance coaching. It has been very big learning and full filling experience. Currently working with 2 people. They teach me something every time I meet. I keep my appointment with them during Saturday's 10 to 11.

Best part of this is clear application of NLP technique. But what is more remunerating is use of level 3 communication which occurs. heighten awareness on my part to listen to what is not told. more I use my level 3 communication ability......more it is becoming part of me. I can now sense mood of people when i talk to them on phone...i can sense it .

This is helping my presentations in conference rooms better....it is helping me sense untold question of my wife ending in batter relationship..... it helps me to interact better with my children.....

Yes....i am talking about what I am getting from my coaching others. Best part...........receiving good feedback from them about the change they are seeing in them selfs from coaching.

it has been very win win activity.

Have you reviewed your life performance for 2009?

I started doing this from past 2 years. Similar to the performance review you do in your company.......I started documenting goals, reviewing periodically and assessing the status at the end of the calender year for my life goals ........... for the year.

When i ended my 2007.........i knew it went well some part which i over focused on........ but didn't knew what went wrong or what went right. I was very clearly unclear about if i have hit the balance in all all sphere of my life for the year.

In that quest I ended 2007 with list of goals for 2008. I ended up in 25 such items ....from learn Meditation to buy another property........ from going for North India trip to learn south Indian cooking. Than I segregated them under 5 categories. Money, Health, Family, Life style & Career-personal. AT the end of the 2008 i didn't do all but i knew what i didn't do well and why I didn't do them well. It became very powerful tool for me to understand my Career direction, My work life balance and my life.

That understanding lead me to planning for 2009. When i looked into my 2009 on how I performed i feel good as I know what i did well and what i missed.............more importantly if those goals are relevant now. Overall I felt i did well. Not exceeded but achieved.

Rule No 1:

1. Ensure it is done on paper or in your computer . Excel is good enough.
2. Make it very clear and specific. No emotional words and no negative wording.
3. Keep the list well under 12.

Steps to follow:
1. If this is first time you are doing this . Than start with list of all you did/achieved in 2009.
2. After finishing the what you did with 2009. Start putting your goals for 2010.
3. Ensure to number them .
4. Use next column to categorise them. Under heads which will ensure you are covering all part of your life...money, career, family, Personal, Health, life style etc.
5. Check if the list is balanced .
6. Check if you feel strongly about each of them.
7. Though it is realistic to keep the list within 12......at the same time don't limit your self and keep going even if you end up with 100. Than work towards prioritising them and bring out the top 10. After all we are planning 1 year of your life and not the life itself.
8. once you are ready with "your" list. Read it out loud to yourself .
9. Than take time ( appropriate time!) to talk to your spouse/Children/Parents..........if they have any one of "their goal" for you to achieve next year for them. Take it and add it with appropriate wording which make it your own. Ensure to read it out to them .
10. I also recommend you to share your goals for next year with your spouse/Children/Parents depending on which stage of life you are in and who matters most and who can contribute to your goal .

Don't ever forget:
“I have come to a frightening conclusion.
I am the decisive element in MY WORLD.
It is MY personal approach that creates the climate.
It is MY daily mood that makes the weather.
As a individual I possess tremendous power to make a person's life miserable or joyous.
I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.
I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.
In all situations, it is MY response that decides whether a crisis
will be escalated or de-escalated, and a child humanized or de-humanized”
-Quote inspired by Haim G. Ginott